Previously Answered Questions
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Finally this page is out of the construction zone.
Here are some question I have been asked.
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13/f-Anonomous-
Mii friend C, shes hurt me a lot of times, like telling me how im a B**** when i just told her she can be a little messed up sometimes. another time, she told me she didnt want me to be friends with her friends that she knew first. also, shes said stuff to my little brother about how shes just taking advantage of me because im nice like that and im smart(i dont mean to brag but she said that). im really hurt and then she just gets mad at me, i dont think i hurt her because i would never try to hurt a friend. sometimes shes just like that and shes lied to me so much but i dont get why im so nice about anything and i always forgive her. but this time i cant forgive her because i cant take it anymore. please some advice on what i should do about this, i would be grateful and really appreciative of any advice. thank you so much!
Hi,
First off I would like to tell you that a true friend would never abuse a friendship like that. If she is truly your friend and wants to make your friendship work then she will work with you to overcome the difficulties in your friendship. Personally, I believe you are making the right decision in leaving her alone and staying away from that friendship. Not all friendships are healthy ones. Besdides if she really wants to be your friend she'll prove it to you and make an effort to make things right with you.
Best Of Luck
Anonomous- Im very young to be pregant.butt ive been geeting pains in my stomach.not cramps.i feel like vomiting but i cant.are theese symtoms?
First off, If you have had sex which it sounds like you have otherwise you wouldnt make the assumption then there is always a possiblility of pregnancy. I reccomend getting a pregnancy test from any drugstore...Some still have them out on the shelves. If the pregnancy test comes back positive then you will need to see your doctor for confirmation...If it turns out that you are not then I would reccomend always using a condom and perhaps getting on birth control.
Good Luck
15/f-Anonomous-
My family is catholic, but i found out that my brother is "agnostic". This has happened recently, he is a seventh grader and only 13 years old. Will he grow out of this? He goes to church but he never says any of the prayers or anything. A lot of people think catholicism is too "strict" but our church isn't a normal catholic church; we have a youth choir that actually sings songs that aren't boring and we have youth groups and our priests are really nice and actually give good sermons. What can i do to help him? I don't want to shove it down his throat or anything...but what should i do? please help!
I think it would be best if you let him decide for himself...Many people are pushed away from their familys religion because they feel never know anything else. I can guarantee that you will not be able to change his mind once he has made a decision and attempting to convert him can only cause strain on your brother/sister relationship. Everyone has a right to believe what they want to and still be accepted by the people that matter the most. Whatever you do, Do Not crusify him for what he believes whether you agree or not.
Good Luck
17/f-Anonomous- I really really like a guy at school who is in one of my classes. I've never talked to him before and I don't know him but I really like him :S
It's so bad because I feel really uncomfortable around him and I am really shy and everything. The worst thing is anytime the teacher asks me a question or I have to say something in class I get totally embarrassed and I'm pretty sure I go completely red and I am so embarrassed and I absolutely hate it, this has never happened to me before and I don't know what to do.
Help?
Talk to him
Whether it be in person or in a note, talk to him.
Get to know him better, become his friend. That way you know if he is even dating material. If you are too shy to talk to him by yourself have one of your friends introduce you to him.
If its meant to be everything will work out.
Good Luck
What to say:
I would reccomend taking the same approach you did with your friends at school. You can start off Hi and let your conversation grow from there. If a friend is there they can help kick off the conversation. Start off simple though, dont come on too strong too soon. Perhaps try complimenting him in some discreet whether it be his hair or his shoes he will appreciate it. Plus it can be a conversation starter. =]
The first conversation is always the hardest but once you get over that first greeting awkwardness evrything will only get easier.
Whatever you do don't be afraid to show who you really are. The most successful relationships are the ones who are the most honest.
I hope this helps.
Best Of Luck
16/f-Anonomous-
my boyfriend has trouble trusting me. he says he trusts me but i know he doesn't. he freaks out anytime i even talk to another guy. i used to have so many guy friends now i don't anymore. i love my boyfriend to death and will not breakup with him i just need your help with a way to make things better.
this happens a lot about different things but i'll tell you what is going on now. he is constantly scared that if i talk to another guy i'll like him. my boyfriend is always asking me who i talk to in my gym class (meaning guys). i hardly talk to any of the guys, mostly just the girls. i told him that and he was like give me all of the names of the people you've had conversations with. and he started freaking out. then i told him that there is no way i could ever remember that and i'm crying so much and he thinks i'm hiding something. he always thinks i talk to guys behind his back.
like he always looks at my phone at my texts and calls. i know he just loves me so much and never wants to lose me but idk what to do to make all of this stop and just have him trust me!
thanks so much!
Hi,
Trust is the key in any relationship, Without it you have no relationship. It seems to be that maybe he has a problem trusting himself. Alot of times people become hyer vigilant when they have done something wrong. They will accuse there partner of doing somthing because they have broken that trust and now feel as if there isnt any trust at all. He may however just be the jealous type. In that case, since you arent willing to say goodbye work with him. Willingly let him see your texts and even write down the names of people you talk to throughout the day. Eventuallly he will begin to trust you. He will relize that if you had something to hide you wouldnt be so open. Also you can try and trust him more so that he knows that there can be trust in a relationship.
I hope that it helps.
Best of Luck
15/f-Anonomous- Ok, my parents are strict Catholics, My older brother(17) is 100% satanic, I'm a Buddhist and my sister finds any form of Religion disgusting.
Our house is all classical, with expensive furniture and so on, cause of my parents.
My room is minimalistic with a small shrine to Buddha. My brother's room is all black, and he does quite extreme Satanic stuff. Sorry, I don't know anything about it. But I have seen blood on the floor and so on.
My sister thinks anyone that people worship is s*it and so on. She's 14. She's constantly complaining about out religions and so on.
My parents hate my brother...they haven't talked for 4 years, since he discovered Satanism. My parents don't like to talk to me either.
And basically they ignore my sister. I get along with her ok, but that's when nothing to do with Religion is involved.
What could I do to make my home life better (15/F btw)
Hi,
Has your family ever considered "family counseling"? If not than I would highly reccomend it. The strain on your familys relationship with eachother is terrible. You all need to find a place where you can stand on civil ground. Have a family discussion about what things you can do to try and get along better. You house seems like nothing but a battle ground. It is extremely unhealty for all of you. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but that doesnt mean you should hate another person because they dont agree with you. Try talking to you parents civily of course about ways that your family can grow closer together. Even the smallest things can bring a family closer together. And perhaps your example of showing kindness towards all of your family alike or not may influence others in your family to make an effort to at least find something to agree on.
I hope it helps.
Best of Luck to You and Your Family
Anonomous- Idk. my best friende killed himself. my boyfriend and ex boyfriend almost got killed in a car accident. my dad was and could stil be a cheater. i finally found someone to love, my boyfriend. He's moving soon. far away. im all by myself. i cant take much more, i can hardly breath, theres no such thing as happiness. everytime i find it, it gets taken away. i cant do this much longer. i try so fuckin hard to get strong, i get there, then something worse happens. its not the first time, its the millionth. so much pain is in my body. ive done the pills. gone to counseling, everything the whole deal. nothing works. i cant do drugs even causeit makes me worse. im all by myself. and when my boyfriend/best friend of one year leaves me, god i dont even know what ill do...
someone help me.
Hi,
Im in a similar situation and I understand completely how you feel. But please don't panic, it only makes things worse...trust me. Being seperated from the person you love isnt easy but it is possible to deal with. You will have your up and down days.If you and your boyfriend are truly meant to be your relationship will lst through anything, even miles in between. Try focusing on the future, make plans with him to meet and get together again. I dont know how old you are but plan on coming together permenantly. If you dont have you drivers license, focus on getting it so that you can go and see him and vice versa. Send pictures, emails, cards, letters. All these things can help. Whatever you do, DO NOT DO DRUGS...please all they do is mess you up...again trust me. Since youhave problems with loneliness try getting a pet. Whether it be a puppy or kitten or maybe even a hamster they can and will help. Find healthy ways to keep yourself busy and keep your mind off of your problems. Slowly but surely things will get better. Even though it may not seem like it now they will. To help ease the pain of your lost friend, try making a memorial. Something to help you close. As for you dad, you cant make his decisions for him. Just try to encourage him to do the right thing. Everything will be ok.
I hope this helps.
Never Give Up.
12/f-Anonomous Okay, I'm a female/12, my ex-boyfriend is really pissed because i broke up with him on a wednsday, and was asked out 2 days after, an I said yes. And now hes really mad, and told my new boyfriend to F*** Off! Should I talk to my ex? What would I say? What should I do??!!
Hi,
The situation really depends on how you feel about your ex. If you still like him and think that he is a good guy for you then you should talk to him. Im guessing you just recently started going out with this new guy so there arent too many feelings as of yet, at least not too strongly. If you dont want to get back with your ex then you still need to talk to him. Go with a friend to ensure that if he gets mad there is someone there for back-up. Your ex cant control you or your new BF...all he can do is make crude remarks to you and him.
What to say: You can tell your ex about how you feel about the sitaution and that you will take the necessary actions to ensure that he discontinues harassing you and your new BF. You could also say that you will involve and adult if he continues to harrass you and your BF. Most kids will become disenchanted by this statement and cease to cause you trouble...And dont worry...Your not a tattle-tale. Your ex may have some harsh things to say. Dont let them effect you. You left him,hence forth you have the upper hand in this situation. It would probably be best however if you were to talk to your ex without your current BF. Him being there could cause anger to rise and a fight to break out, and no one wants that. The best thing to do is to tell him how you feel, and not to give into his pittiful attempts to ruin your life because you left his.
I hope it helps.
Best of Luck
Anonomous- So my friend likes to give me riddles and this one is coded in numbers and its taking me a long time to do so she gave me a hint and said 38734= There which was the first word of the rest of the riddle. i dont want help with the whole riddle but does anyone have any idea how that can equal there?
Hi,
Perhaps...(no guarentee though), they spell out a word on a phone. Most phones have texting and hence forth they have the alphabet on the keys as well...Maybe you take the number on the phone and look at the letters on that key. Try to see if it spells a word once you have taken all the letters from the number keys.
Perhaps it will work but I have no clue.
Hope you solve it
Best of Luck
Anonomous- My sister us emo and cuts her self and is selfish a jerk and a major butthole... she always fights with my mom and cuts her self... my mom and dad are really strict about religion...i dont know what to do about my sister shes done so manyy harmful things that have hurt her and i dont like seeing her like this it makes me very sad.
Hi,
I have been in a similar situation. Cutting can be a hard thing to overcome. Try to make things less stressful for your sister, whether it be simply taking her dirty clothes to the laundry or tidying up her room a bit. It will help ease the stress of every day life. No one can make your parents decisions and nor can anyone change their opinions. Family counseling is a good way to bring a family closer and a good place to share feeling on certain subjects without the war zone.
Just be patient with your sister and parents. it will take time, things like this don't happen overnight.
I hope I was able to help.
Best of Luck
